Thrive

Have you noticed how we don’t make a move or a change in our lives until things get really, and I mean REALLY bad for us? We sit on a spike and we don’t move from that place until we start bleeding so badly that our life is at stake. 

Why is that? We see that everywhere around us, be it at the work place, in relationships, when it comes to our health and wellbeing, and so on. We sit in that place that some like to call “comfort zone” - well, in my opinion that cannot be a comfort zone, because comfort for me is a state of relaxation and wellbeing. Let’s call it in that place of fear. But fear of what? Fear of failure? Fear of making things worse than they are? Or is it fear of success? Are we afraid that if we reach a certain level of success our whole lives will change and that will put us in different, unknown situations? I think I can check them all, I lived all of the above, and I noticed that until I made a real and serious decision, nothing in my life changed. And I mean nothing. People around us can make us smile, can make us laugh, can even put us out of our comfort zones, but you know what they can’t do? Make us 100% happy. That’s our own job. We ask so much from the people around us.. to make us feel butterflies in our tummies, to make us laugh as often as possible, to help us be optimistic, to help us be calm, to guide us, to give us strength, to give us certainty. I know, the easiest places to look for all of those is on the outside. But that’s not the real place that will fulfil us. We think they have the things we need, and when they don’t give us what we need, we blame them. Oh how much we blame them.. 

If you could compare this behaviour to that of someone, to whom would you compare it to? The first thing that comes to my mind is a child, a little one that is dependent on an adult. Can you take a step backwards and look at this honestly. If someone (that isn’t a child) would depend on you like that (maybe someone already does), wouldn’t it freak you out (or doesn’t it freak you out)? Wouldn’t you feel a huge responsibility on your shoulders to make someone feel happy, joyful, in a great state all the time? 

Now let’s come back to us. Have you noticed how we play the victim card whenever there’s something bad going on with us internally, and how we place the guilt on the exterior? It’s the easiest thing to do, and sometimes it even makes us feel better to vent on the people around us. Those poor souls.. Don’t take this the wrong way, we do these things to each other all the time, and sometimes we even love it, we shortly recharge from it, and then we realise what we did, we feel sorry, and then we go on to feeling miserable all together. 

Now.. what if there’s another way. Let’s face it, we all know there is always another way, there’s always the kind way, the compassionate way. Compassionate towards yourself, towards your pain, and suffering that is pushing you to your limits. Compassion and love for your wounds that get a postponing rather than a healing. If you’re fair with yourself, do you think you were made to live a small life, a sad life, or were you made to thrive? I am so certain that ALL of us are made to thrive, to be successful, to be fulfilled, to be healthy, and live extraordinary lives. I believe we are born on this earth to grow, to expand our consciousness, to succeed, and to never give up. 

What can you do today to make a shift in your way of seeing things? I encourage you to write at least 3 things that you could do TODAY that will make small shifts in your life, and will bring you the joy that you were looking for in the exterior. You were looking in the wrong place. Look inside, it’s all there, it always was and always will be. Let yourself be guided to the answers, act out of love for yourself and for the others around, and find what inspires you, find the reason that propels you. Write it down today. Write it again tomorrow, and apply it. By all means write it down every day and repeat it in your mind, it will help you find your way so much quicker than you think. Nobody can show you the way that’s right for you, only you can discover that, so put your lab coat on, get curious and search within. Sending love and light.